October 15, 2012 Leave a comment
The greatest thing to accomplish with my wife is bringing a child into this world. She found out that she was pregnant when her best friend came to town. She surprised me with the news when I came home from work that she was pregnant.
I was very excited for us and mainly for her. She really wanted to make our marriage more with the joining of the both of us by bringing a child into this world. When we first started dating she asked me if I wanted another child. I have a son from another relationship and she has two boys from a previous relationship. I said to her yes I would like but it’s not priority. She was up in the air about the same question when I asked her. She felt that in her previous relationship that she was not interested in having another child. It wasn’t to long into our relationship that our love grew and her thoughts changed. Her believing that this relation is actually the real deal and then the thoughts of maybe I could be the one. She told me one day that she decided that she has changed her mind and that she is considering the possibility of having another child with me. Obviously we were in love with one another. So I said to her we should let GOD handle the idea of bringing another child into this world, so we moved forward with the coming together of two families when we married April 16, 2011. Maybe just maybe one day he’ll grant us the gift of life, and GOD did. Nicole is now pregnant.
What I have witnessed for the second time is that as a man you have to give in and take even more responsibility when your significant other is pregnant. Meaning the responsibilities that the two of you shared are now all yours. She will forget, she will be tired, she be will irritated, she will be in pain, she will be emotional, she will be excited, she will be helpless and most of all she will be loving. Things to remember.
The beginning is always great. She’s excited your excited and everyone that loves you is excited. Then the baby begins to develop and her body will start to change. Meaning that she will become tired from the child developing and taking all the energy she has stored. So; making sure she has the correct pill that helps her and the child develop is very important. It helps if she already knows what she wants to take that is healthy as she does. I just have to make sure that she doesn’t forget to take them in the beginning. Since she is a vegetarian she will take more vitamins that concentrate on specific things for her and the baby. Only problem is that she is pregnant and she will need more food than she normally does. That is a hard thing to swallow for a vegetarian lol. She did take her first bite of meat in a very long time which was very funny to watch. I did feel bad when she ate that piece of chicken. I told her that I don’t really want to see her do that again. It just felt weird. She did say that it taste good though.
The summer came and the heat was here. We found out that it was a baby girl. YES! She was so excited once the news came of the child being a girl.
First thing we were ORDERED to do was paint the room PINK. Boy is it PINK! She order the crib and the stroller with car seat. At the same time we are trying to redo the living room. WHAT MONEY? Painting the room was fun. I also had to put together the crib which is white to make the PINK stand out even more. Place the chair with ottoman in the room and put up new blinds and curtains. We got it done though and it came out really nice. She even added a little something around the top corners of the room to make even more girly lol which was cute.
Next was the baby shower. She reserved a spot at the McDowell Nature Preserve by the water. It was a good spot because the heat can be a problem and with the spot near the water and with large trees it was good. The temperature outside the park was completely different from in the park. The shower was called a Baby-Q. Her cousin was nice enough to handle all things Baby-Q. She was the one that gave all of us except my wife responsibilities Thank you to her. I already knew that I was going to be in charge of all the meat. My wife went into her crafty mode. She was creating center pieces and other decoration for the Baby-Q and even for the baby’s room for a whole month. This is called nesting, and boy was she cute when she was in this mode. She was very creative and never stop coming up with ideas. I had to tell her to take it easy that she can’t go driving around all over the place when I can’t take her.
As time went by she was growing belly wise. She was getting in the mood of “I’m getting fat, look at me” talk but; she is still BEAUTIFUL. Time to take her shopping. Yes take her shopping to get new clothing that she will only wear for the pregnancy. Shirts, dress and pants that’s what she got. To top it off I bought her some Pandora. A nice charm that is the shape of a heart that is split in half were one side said Daughter and the Mother. She can actually share this with her when she gets older and starts her very expensive Pandora collection too.
The next ORDER was that I was to make a hot sauce to pass out to guest when they leave. This was a process. Having to make your own hot sauce from scratch was very scientific Adding very little at a time to make sure you don’t over do it, and bottling all that sauce too. She came up with a drawing and sent off to a company that handles putting designs on labels. They sent the labels with her design and we put them on all the bottles that she also order online. The sauce came out pretty good. Not as hot as I would like it to be but I don’t want to give some one a heart attack.
Summer is going by quickly and the baby is growing. I try to make it to every appointment she has. I missed two maybe. Every-time I go I capture a picture of her waiting for the Doc. She never knew that I was doing that until I showed her one day. She is all about taking pictures to capture these months and more to come. She told me that she never had the chance to do that with her boys while she was pregnant with them. I’m not one to get in front of the camera; so guys if you’re not, do it anyways. Why? because this brings on another emotional trigger and that is never good for you and especially her. JUST DO IT.
Time flies by quickly and faster than you know it. She is getting close the nerves have kicked in. She starts to get all of the issues that plagued her before the summer. Pain while sleeping happens the most. Luckily she started to take Tylenol PM so she can sleep a LITTLE more comfortably. I have little space in bed for the baby has grown. She is a feisty child in her belly. The baby moves so much it was entertaining to a point were the wife had to ask the Doc if it’s normal. It is!
The need for attention for the wife is always important to give even before the pregnancy, but now it’s doubled. Making sure she gets what ever she needs like food. She wants tacos get tacos. She wants a milk shake get it. I have never felt over burdened by her request. I actually enjoyed or anticipated the next one ready to go get. What will she want to eat next? At the same time reminder her that she is not FAT but that she is PREGNANT there is a difference. Telling her that she is sexy and BEAUTIFUL more often than I did helps out a lot (I hope.).
Next ORDER she gave is installing the car seat. We had a Elantra, but with the car seat, I and her we did not have the room in the driver seat. So, we upgraded from the Elantra to the Sonata. The car seat was a breeze to put in once I figured out that the car came with two welled in hooks in the seats that you can’t see. The car seat clips right in and then you tighten it as tight as you can and your good to go. Upgrading to a new car wasn’t on the most important list. We just went up to the dealer ship and asked what can you do without adding $200 more dollars to the already crazy payments that we were making on the Elantra. They gave us a good deal and we drove away with a nice Sonata. Thank you GOD. I’m still keeping my 1991 Sentra SR20DE yes. My own personal import hot-rod lol.
Her worries come and go. She can worry about things that have nothing to do with the development of our lives. I have to just remind her that the pregnancy is the most important thing and that everyone and everything else has to take a back seat for a while until the baby comes. Stress is the most important thing you can help relieve a pregnant woman from if you can in any way possible do. I try, but she will stress about something All I can do is counter act it with something that she maybe interested in or want to do. Basically I improvised alot lol.
I did have a strange experience at the hospital. It came about with her waking up and finding that she was bleeding when she was on her way to the bathroom. We immediately went to the emergency room where she will be giving birth. We sat for hours waiting. The crazy thing that happened was while waiting the nurse passed a paper to my wife. Later I asked her what was that? She said ” Funny that you said that” it was a form that asks her if she is scared of her husband, children and if she were being beaten. I was embarrassed To think that I look like I beat my wife. The nurse had a lot of nerve to give this form to her in front of me. Something like that should have been done in private without me present, so I won’t instill fear in my wife since they believe I might by giving the form to her. I actually have a white friend that is giving birth around the same time we are. He told me that he was just at the hospital a week before we went in. He asked his wife and she said no she never filled out any paper like that. He also said that they had their first baby at this same hospital a year and half ago and they never filled one out then too. Now I feel like I just been racially profiled or maybe I just look like a wife beater. The things I face being the husband to a pregnant wife lol. Just thought I’d share that.
School is starting up and she is a teacher. That means children with all types of nastiness. Good thing is that she has not caught anything. She has gone to the Doc and received all the necessary shots. She will not get maternity leave. In South Carolina they do not get that option. She has to work up until the baby is ready to come. This is very difficult because I want her to get as much rest as possible but it’s not going to happen. She will get it on the weekends mostly. With her wanting to do all her great ideas with the students before she has the baby and is out for a while is not going to happen but she tries anyways. My worry is that she is not on her feet all day. I’m pretty sure that she has some co-workers who are very concerned with her trying to walk around all day doing things for the children in and outside of the classroom. Making sure she eats regularly. It has come to a point that she is no longer allowed to drive herself to school anymore. Now that we only have two weeks left. My concern for her has raised to levels that will have me pacing myself at work. So I have appointed her father and son to take her to work when I’m not able to. When I have my two days off during the week I will take her and my son to school and pick them up. She did not like that idea but she has to deal with it. I can’t see her driving herself to work now that her belly is bigger, getting close to the steering wheel and she has slow time getting in and out of the car lol. Time is near and life is about to get very interesting.